They spend a lot of time trying to dictate your money.
One of the main issues that couples have is that of money. From not making enough to spending way too much, that seems to be a recurring topic of conversation. Though some issues can be sorted out, if you have a partner that's always making your money a focal point of conversations, you may want to consider their motive.
"Coming together and having an open conversation about finances is great," Viciere told INSIDER. "It can get controlling, however, if your partner starts telling you what you can and cannot do with the money you are earning."
They try to keep you from those that you love.
When you're in a relationship, you tend to spend a lot of time with your partner. Usually, your family and friends are understanding of that because there is a balance between spending time with everyone in your life. If you've started to notice that your partner wants you to only spend time with them thought, this is a huge red flag that something isn't right.
"If you have established relationships that are healthy and your partner is struggling with this, that's a sign," Viciere said. "When someone is trying to control you, taking you away from people who love you will allow them to have complete control. Sometimes your partner may say certain negative things about situations with your family or friends. Be mindful of the conversation to assure you are not being swayed in one direction."
"If you are constantly hearing these negative things from someone you love, you may begin to believe it, and over time, may look at people whom you have always cared about as enemies. Make sure any conversations you have with your partner about family or friends are not geared toward negativity, but instead are more solution-focused."
They have a tendency to tell you what is "right."
When running into an issue in your life, the first person you usually vent to or discuss it with is your partner. "Pay attention to how they speak," she said. "Controlling people essentially want you to behave in a manner that pleases them so they will tell you what you 'should' do regardless of your feelings about it."